When a mistress became a wife

When a mistress became a wife

The old saying that you can't build happiness on someone else's misfortune doesn't lose its relevance today. A woman, out of love or calculation, managed to take her husband away from his former family and build a new marriage with him. But in most cases, it doesn't bring her happiness.

The reason is simple – all her life she will live with a hidden fear that there will be a new lover who can also take her husband away from her family. What she did, the other one will do. In sixty percent of cases, the fear is justified. But it's not necessary for a man to look for a new woman, you can return to your first wife. Without realizing it, his ex-lover, having become his wife, will push him to do it herself.

Any woman in a similar situation remembers how she "took" her husband. If it's youth and attractiveness, then she will keep herself in shape all the time, but at the same time, the normal desire to look good can turn into a real mania. And this, like everything excessive, is annoying. And the husband is able to recall the comfort and excellent conversational relations that he had with his former wife. Anyway, it's well known that an intelligent woman is always more attractive than a beautiful one. How easy it would be for a husband to leave his family.

If the mistress "took" just with her mind and cunning, giving the chosen one exactly what he did not receive in the previous family, then this does not mean. That tomorrow he won't want anything new or, having reached a midlife crisis, won't start paying attention to the young and beautiful. Moreover, an intelligent wife is always a potential rival in business and financial matters.

As it is not obvious, after becoming a wife, a mistress forgets to remain a mistress. The new status is too desirable, and therefore there is always a risk that she will simply lose her former qualities, accurately copying her former rival.

It is important to remember that a man, in most cases, does not choose his appearance or his mind. He chooses a world where he feels more comfortable. A lover gives understanding, empathy and communication. As long as the eternal fear of being abandoned persists in the new family, you can forget it.

However, it is always worth considering whether a relationship with a married man is worth living in fear of marrying him. The price of wanting to play first fiddle may be too high. But if the reason for the desire to take her husband away from the family is mutual love. Such a marriage has a chance, unless at some point, the woman falls out of love, because fear comes precisely when a more exalted feeling cools down.